Sex blogging and I

:Personal vent post by Elle, not the erotic nerd:

As you all know, I’ve recently began blogging again and my focus is sex/sexuality and soon gender. My tumblr began, and still is, a place I write for ME. My twitter is a reflection of my sporadic thoughts and moments in between living and accepting what life has offered me. Am I 100% spot on? no, never. I’m in trial and error, learning as fast as I possibly can while maintaining quality. I feel I have become a resource center, a sound off board for everyone and their sexual quest so my twitter is your direct line to me. I try my best to entertain without boring and to teach without talking AT you.

Recently I “met” someone who is a sex educator. I met her through someone close to my heart. The conversation was great, I was even invited to stay with her for a sex education certification..that is until two tweets and my letting her know my relationship to our mutual friend. The two tweets were me in mid-rant, as you all know I do when I am challenged, I could have rephrased some words and have paid special attention as to how I address certain things online since. 

I do NOT take well to bullying nor do I respond well to being talked down to. I am well aware that I am the new fish in this pond but when a change is that swift it lets me know that your original reaching out was not only lacking sincerity but you had another motive. I guard my world well, I guard my resources even better. I take personal offense in that, especially when conversation was only via text/dm/email. Seeing how it took 35 hours for someone to go from reaching out 150% to being completely cold, mean, taunting and demeaning not only made me second guess myself but in all sincerity it stung a bit. Everything from my tweets to education was damn near ridiculed. I then recognized the high school clique mentality that followed and since she didn’t approve of me, a person she’s never met nor verbally spoken to, her contacts also cut me off. Touché.

I welcome new friendships and look forward to learning, at my own pace, from women more skilled and advanced in this arena. Sex and sexuality has always been my love but due to personal restraint and even guilt, I repressed it but I am NOT refined and I am walking towards the path of becoming more educated about it. I felt the need to write this blog because I was beyond offended that this person not only crossed EVERY line imaginable with me but went as far as to insult my intelligence. This is my PERSONAL venting post, not as the erotic nerd, but as Elle the person. I respect those who respect me and I am not easily fooled, regardless of the occasional jokes. 

Sex educators and sex positive bloggers, please be genuine in your outreach. Do not attempt to bully and toss around clout and talk down to people with a genuine love and interest in this field. Do not attempt to manipulate situations for your own personal benefit and gain. Do not JUDGE (after all, isn’t that what you fight against? irony) before you actually take the time to personally get to know the person and furthermore, do not waste anyones fucking time. Time is essential and we lose it by the moment. If you have an inner circle, clique, so feminist you can’t even be genuine in your approach to another woman then please keep your pseudo support and friendship, I have ALWAYS made it where I am supposed to be and that my dear, will never change.

Sincerely,

Elle

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  1. seemyeyesrollem said: It is sad that someone so old in age acts so young. I thought it may have something to do with your relationship with the mutual friend and her tweets showed her jealousy. I am glad you kept it pushing. You have so much greatness ahead of you!
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